When Words Matter

 It was early Friday morning last week. I was at my desk when it came through, completely unexpected. Totally out of the blue.Ding! I had a message.It popped up. <click> I read.The writer just wanted me to know that she was thinking of me. That she appreciated me. That she values the work I do in the world. She cited a specific example of something she'd observed, and told me the impact it made on her.It took me a minute to realize that this wasn't the usual spam solicitation or unwelcome sales message. Rather, it was a lovely, eloquent reminder of who I am and what I do in the world.I was bowled over, deeply appreciative and hugely validated. What an unexpected, lovely gift!Now, as we move from one year to the next, you'll hear many authorities say that this is the time to plan. To organize. To shed. To resolve. And that's certainly a fine thing to do.But there's another wonderful something you could do... why not take a minute and write a note to someone and tell them how much you appreciate them?Tell them how they have impacted your life.Tell them you are glad they are here.Tell them that they are appreciated, valued and seen.Give them a specific example of when you've seen them at their best, and the difference it's made or is making for you and for others.Do it by email. Do it with fancy stationery and a fine pen. Do it on the back of a receipt with a crayon. Do it however you can given what you've got.The how if it is less important than the done of it.You don't need to anguish about your eloquence or strive to say whatever needs saying perfectly. All you need to do is take a moment to use words which give another human being a sense of meaningful accomplishment, and the keen awareness that they matter.Because they do. And we all have the power to remind someone - and ourselves - of that, today.