Michele Woodward

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Who’s Ready For Some Homework?

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I have the firm belief that it’s impossible to make a really great plan for the future unless you take time to reflect on the past.

That’s the thinking behind the Personal Planning Tool I’ve been offering you since 2009. Every year I update it for the coming year and this time when I wrote out the new date, I said something eloquent and thoughtful.

I said, “Whoa.”

As in, whoa, what a great opportunity to reflect on everything that’s happened in 2019 as we plan for 2020, but why not look waaaay back? Why not look at where we all were in 2010?

So I sat down, and I am known to do, and created a tool to do that reflection. What were the most powerful questions? What got to the heart of the matter?

I made a copy of my handwritten draft and walked myself through the emerging process. Tweaked. Refined.

Then I sent my handwritten, scrawled out notes to a dozen helpful souls who offered to try it and provide helpful and critical feedback.

I waited. But before long my email started to ping with messages like this:

“I was surprised by the theme of taking care of my physical body. I’m seeing my family age and it suddenly feels URGENT to care for my vessel in ways it never did before. This came through so loud and clear as I filled this out.”

“I thought the whole review was thought provoking and valuable. The big surprise to me was the question: If you could send a message from today to your 2030 self, what would you say? As I read it, I teared up. Big time.  At first I thought the question didn’t make sense – easier to give advice/share wisdom with 20/20 hindsight –  but then why did it bring tears to my eyes?! I realized the reason was that my thoughts about the future were pessimistic (which is not my usual personality default) and I didn’t know what to tell my future self beyond “Savor the butterflies now.” ;/ Not a useful way to move forward action-wise. And that I could do better for myself and values than that. Where I am currently is to say to my 2030 year self that the future is still wide open (props to Tom Petty) and to stay sturdy; my work here is not done.”

“I think the biggest thing I learned from this exercise is that you have no idea what the future could bring. Ten years ago, I was single, had not met my husband and could not have dreamt of what my future life could hold. I also noticed today – 10 yrs. later – that I omit my career and myself in much of this plan. I am in a supporting role and put my needs after those of others. However, this process reinforces a few things that I need to make a priority – working out, reconnecting with friends. I also realized how much I am driven [now] by personal vs. professional goals. It also makes me fear a bit for the next 10 years since things have been so good, similar to that of a recession after good economic times.”

“I cried on page 4.  These questions were POWERFUL.  When you compare 10 years the things that need to be fixed are in such plain sight. I focused on what was still not going well but, I also need to celebrate that I have doubled my income in 10 years.”

Deep and abiding thanks to the brave and kind folks who took the time to test drive the 10-Year Tool. Which is now up and ready for you!

Go to www.michelewoodward.com/resources to access both the new 10-Year Tool and its big sister, the 2020 Personal Planning Tool. These two worksheets are designed to complement one another – and also designed to be the sort of thing you take your time with. To think. To reflect. To grow your understanding.

This ain’t no Cosmo quiz, friends.

And, as always, the resources on my page are available to you at no charge.

After you use the 10-Year Tool or the 2020 Personal Planning Tool, drop me a note and let me know what you think. I can’t wait to hear about the things you learn!

Who Plans For Anything?

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Back in October, I sat down with my Personal Planning Tool (yes, even though I wrote it, I do indeed use it).

And after I worked through the entire thing, reflecting on what worked and didn’t work in 2012 and what I’d like to do differently in 2013, I promptly put it in a pile of papers and didn’t look at it until this past week, when I re-discovered it as I was cleaning off my desk.

Imagine my surprise, then, when I reviewed the document and…

In four months, I had accomplished almost all of the things I hoped to do for the entire year.

I was pretty much gobsmacked. Could it really be possible?

Oh, it’s not like I set easy goals for myself, sugar. I stretched. I aimed high. For instance, I threw out what felt like a big number on monthly income, and a big number for increased traffic to my blog.

And I got ’em.

In the Career area I set out five goals, and four of them have happened. I am astonished to say that the fifth one is halfway done. I did both my key action items, too.

Yep, in every area – Career, Finances, Relationships, Health – there’s been surprising progress.

And here’s the kicker – which I am going to admit to you, right here and right now: I haven’t really been paying attention.

I haven’t been obsessing, or checking, or even really focusing. In fact, I’d completely forgotten where I’d put the worksheet.

My goals were only in my consciousness because I had written them down, and given myself permission to go get them.

Which is probably the single most important thing I want you to know today:

The greatest gift you can give yourself is the courage to have goals.

Know your “why” around them.

Invite them into your life.

Write them down.

And then allow your better self to take the steps needed to get those things done.

Perhaps even while you are doing other things (or maybe just think you are), your intentions will be running like a background program, setting up real success in your life.

This week, as I looked over my plan, I was filled with a gratifying sense of accomplishment. I did what I said I would do – which feels like progress – and the reason I’m doing it feels entirely validated.

I’d like you to know that feeling, too.

Thoreau famously said “the mass of men live lives of quiet desperation”, and my guess is that those guys didn’t make a plan and put it away, only to realize later that they had achieved precisely what they set out to achieve.

Personal power, resilience and fulfillment trump desperation every time, darlings. Every time.

Go ahead. Give it a try. You can download the 2013 Personal Planning Tool PDF yourself. I wonder what you will get done in the next few months…while you aren’t even paying attention.

Oh, by the way, the Personal Planning Tool asks for a theme song for 2013. Mine? Steve Miller’s Fly Like An Eagle.

It’s fun to be soaring, baby. Wanna do it together?

 

 

The Perils of Thinking Big

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Let me disrupt the norm just an eensy bit.

There are plenty of people out there who will exhort you to “think bigger”. To “dream big”. To “live large”. To “go big or go home”. And, ironically enough, they often have something to sell you.

I’m going to suggest something quite different.

Believe me, I love dreams. I have a real thing for goals. And I have reached quite a few of them, thank you very much. So what I know is this:

To reach your dreams, they need to be completely yours and they need to be completely grounded in reality.

Let me give you an example. I happen to like football. Yet if I have a dream to play nose tackle for the Washington Redskins, I’m going to be setting myself up for abject failure. How many women play for the NFL? For that matter, how many 5’6″ people play nose tackle? How many people my age play in the NFL? Zip, nada and zilch, respectively.

Oh, sure, I could hold on to my dream of playing professional football, and some people might tell me to hold on tight because it’s a big dream. But holding on would mean always living my life unfulfilled. Falling short. Feeling like a failure. In pursuit of the impossible.

Or, I could channel my love of football in another way – an achievable way that just might stretch me a little, too. Like: I could challenge myself to make enough money to buy season tickets to the Redskins. Like: I could form a Redskins fan club and meet other like-minded fans. Like: I could coach peewee football (now, that would be a hoot).

When I hold on to a big dream just because other people tell me it’s important to go big, I live a life full of anxious striving. Of chronically falling short.

I’m setting myself up for failure.

I will never be enough.

And why would I do that to myself?

Some people believe that bigger equals easier. And that’s an exciting prospect. The thinking goes: I get bigger, I get richer, I get famous, I’m on Easy Street.

If only that were true.

I know people whose dream is to appear on Oprah Winfrey’s TV show. They believe that if they can only get on the show, the Oprah Effect will happen and suddenly they’ll be famous. Of course, I happen to know people who’ve been on the Oprah show and guess what? They didn’t suddenly become rich. They didn’t suddenly get highly-paid speaking engagements. They didn’t get book deals. And some of them wonder what they did wrong. Because lightning didn’t strike. They’re not on Easy Street.

If you really want to get rich, the tried and true method is to work at it every day. Slow, steady, purposeful, focused. Do you know the book The Millionaire Next Door? In it, the authors research how people get and stay rich. They don’t win the lottery, there’s no reality television show, there’s no flukey Antiques Roadshow find in the attic, there’s no get rich quick scheme.

Most millionaires become wealthy by living below their means, investing wisely and making good decisions.

OK, it’s not flashy or sexy. You’re not going to get a ton of attention and groupies this way. It’s true – the wealthiest people don’t live large. They aren’t devotees of conspicuous consumption. They aren’t necessarily driven by impressing others. They don’t attempt to keep up with the Joneses.

The wealthiest center in their strengths. They grow their world starting with their expertise. They work at it every day.

And day by day, they get happier. And more satisfied. And stronger financially. And they do more of what they want. And sometimes, sure, bigness comes along as a result of all the hard work.

That’s what I call doing it the right way.