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The Connector Strategy

November 28, 2010 By Michele Woodward 11 Comments

power cordI cannot believe I haven’t written about this before, because I talk about it all the time. In classes, in coaching sessions, in workshops, possibly even in my sleep – I hammer the importance of The Connector Strategy.

Yet, I’ve never shared it with you in writing.

Let’s remedy that right now, shall we?

The Connector Strategy is the most powerful tool you can possibly use to get what you want.

I imagine I have your attention now.

First, the backstory. In his book, The Tipping Point, writer Malcolm Gladwell tells the story of the way epidemics and fads start. Almost always, at the center of something new is a personality type called A Connector.

A Connector is the kind of person who goes to a new restaurant, comes home and emails a hundred friends with his review. And suggests what they should try. And gives them the name of the maitre d’. And the waiter whose section is the one you want to sit in.

A true Connector connects for the sheer joy of it. There’s a rush from linking people with people, people with things, people with ideas. A true Connector is not involved in any quid pro quo – she just loves doing it. It energizes her. Makes her happy. [Guess who you know who’s a Connector?]

A few years ago, I took the idea of the Connector and applied it to people looking for a job, and the success was immediate.

At one point, I had four clients who were previously-executive women looking to re-enter the workforce after long employment gaps. They had each taken time off to parent, and one had an ill spouse she had cared for. When I say “long employment gaps” I mean seven years. Nine years. Eleven years. Fourteen years. Those kind of gaps. You know, the “who-in-the-world-would-hire-me” kind of gaps.

In each of these cases, we identified strengths, skills, priorities and goals. We bucked up confidence. And we inventoried Connectors.

Because the average human being knows four Connectors. But if you’re a Connector yourself, you may have more than twenty in your contact list.

Once my clients identified their Connectors, they needed to activate them. Now, here’s where Personal Branding comes into play. I’ve written about this before, but let me sum up:

Your personal brand is what someone else would say about you if asked.

And this is important when it comes to Connectors. Your Connectors may be your kid’s friend’s parents, or your neighbor. Or they could be someone you worked for a long time ago. Or a college friend. Or your periodontist.  How you made the relationship is less important than the fact of your contact’s innate Connectorship.

You want a Connector to be able to speak to your personal brand. To your skills, your integrity, your ability to get stuff done. And if you’ve coordinated a charity event with your periodontist, she might just be a perfect advocate for you.

To activate Connectors, figure out how each likes to be contacted.  Then reach out to them, and tell them what you’re looking for. This is not the moment for the lame “have any ideas for me?”  This is the time to say, “I’m looking for a senior management position where I can turn around an under-performing team.”

That kind of statement is like throwing red meat to a tiger. A well-connected, problem-solving tiger.

When my four employment gap women used the Connector Strategy, what do you think happened?  If you imagined that each of them were quickly employed with salaries in the six figures, you’d be right.

In a regular economy, 70% of jobs are filled by personal referral – they are not posted in the classifieds or on job boards.  In this economy, it seems more like 90% of jobs are filled this way. Makes sense – if an organization can only hire one person, they want to make sure they hire a sure thing.

If you’re recommended by a Connector, you’re more likely to be considered that sure thing.

And it’s great to be a sure thing, whether you’re looking for a new position, or a new home, or a new love relationship. All you have to do is Connect.

Filed Under: Books, Career Coaching, Getting Unstuck Tagged With: connecting, Connector Strategy, find a job, Malcolm Gladwell, personal brand, referrals

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  1. John says

    November 28, 2010 at 10:13 pm

    What a great summary of the power of the connector. Also I loved that you had 4 solid examples of success. People miss so much opportunity on all fronts when they don’t use the potential of a tribe and it’s connectors. I would venture to say that it is probably one of the most powerful pieces you can offer your clients. BTW, I found your post via my twitter search “connector”, a find that paid off. Keep it up!
    Cheers, John

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    • Michele Woodward says

      November 30, 2010 at 3:17 am

      I am so glad you found me, too, John! Thanks so much. Let’s stay… connected. 🙂

      Reply
  2. Bridget Pilloud says

    November 28, 2010 at 11:57 pm

    I am so happy that you wrote about the connector strategy today! And I especially like your point about figuring out how they like to be contacted. If you can connect into their system in a way that easily works for them, it makes it easier for them to help you!
    How do people get over the fear of asking? How do you do an ask that underscores your personal brand? More information on this would be really useful!

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    • Michele Woodward says

      November 30, 2010 at 3:16 am

      A true Connector loves connecting. So when you ask a Connector to connect, there is no reason for fear – you are asking him or her to do something they love! You are creating a place for them to be fully themselves. 🙂

      To “ask” while underscoring your personal brand… You might say something like, “Karen, you know me. I work fast, I’m efficient and I’m great moving a team toward a deadline. That’s what I want to do for the right company.” You’re reminding her of your skill set (can’t you just feel her nodding along?) and then planting the seed of what you most want.

      Hope this helps, Bridget. Thanks so much for commenting.

      Reply
  3. Tia Sparkles Singh says

    November 29, 2010 at 3:02 am

    Oh I think you may be a connector-maven. Great point about being direct and speaking to your brand when connecting. MW, you’re the bomb.

    Reply
    • Michele Woodward says

      November 30, 2010 at 3:13 am

      Yet again, Tia, another place for us to connect. [have you heard that before?] Loving your bomb-ish-ness, too! — Michele

      Reply
  4. Glad Doggett says

    December 14, 2011 at 7:06 am

    Hi Michele –
    I love being a Connector. I get a real charge when I get the privilege of connecting someone to an opportunity, an idea or even a restaurant.

    Thanks for putting a name to something I have been all my life.

    Reply
  5. lucy says

    April 4, 2013 at 1:00 am

    I always new I was a connector but I never knew that there was an actual “word: for it! What career paths do you recommend would be great for people who are connectors (connector-mavens)? Thanks

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  6. karin says

    October 31, 2014 at 2:24 am

    My problem is, I am a connector. I’m constantly connecting other people, but I have yet to figure out how to connect myself! As you mentioned, I don’t do the connecting for any reason other than the joy of it….but sometimes, like now, when I’m looking for a new job I could really use that connecting myself

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  7. Stephen Kirkland says

    July 19, 2016 at 8:04 am

    Good info….thank you.

    Reply

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