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How To Tell A Story

June 7, 2009 By Michele Woodward Leave a Comment

 

 

 

bigstock-one-caucasian-woman-holding-um-44247049I’ve been thinking about story telling as I continue work on my forthcoming book. Stories are such powerful things. People certainly love listening to stories being told and telling stories themselves.

Most of all, folks seem to adore telling stories about themselves, which I find very revealing.

When someone tells me a story that goes something like this: “I can’t _____ because _____,” or “I’m not _____ because _____,” I know they’re stuck. They’re probably telling a story about themselves that once may have been true but no longer really works. The old story holds them back, yet a new story seems unwritten and, perhaps, unwritable.

Hey, want to look at your personal narrative and figure out if the story you’re telling about yourself is actually moving you toward something, or holding you back?

I sure do. Ready?

So what is the story you tell about yourself? [reader does a spewing spit take] “I don’t tell a story, I just live my life,” the reader says with indignation.

Uh-huh.

Take out a piece of paper and make two columns. Title the first column: Now Words. In that column write words to describe your life as it is right now.

Bored

Stressed

Stuck

Routine

Honest

Kind

Generous

Write as many describing words as you’d like. Then, title the second column, “Future Words” and start writing words that describe the life you want to have. You may carry Now Words into the Future Words column. For instance:

Honest

Kind

Generous

Happy

Fun

Loving

Creative

Now, here’s where you change your personal narrative. Start consciously using your Future Words in your day-to-day life, and start taking actions that bring those words to life. So, if “creative” is a part of your future, what can you do today to create? Be very specific: “I can write 10 pages. I can solve a problem. I can work in my garden. I can throw a pot. I can paint.” Name your creative thing, then go ahead and do it.

We can all make lists, friends. But not all of us are adept at putting our energy in the game and actually doing. All it takes to re-write your personal narrative is awareness of what you want, backed up by purposeful action.

When you pair that up, you’ll find — pretty soon — that you’re telling a new, happier story. I promise you, it will be one you’ll enjoy telling so much more than the old version. Oh, and you’ll be living a happier, more successful life.

That’s my story, and I’m… well, you know the rest.

Filed Under: Authenticity, Blog, Career Coaching, Clarity Tagged With: awareness, being stuck, Future Words, life coach, Now Words, personal narrative, telling a story

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  1. Laurie Foley says

    June 7, 2009 at 5:58 pm

    Michele, there's a subtle point here that really hit me between the eyes: my future can include my now. For example, I might have thought "Now: struggling, nice" and "Future: successful, not as nice" because of some weird belief about successful people not being as nice – even though most of the ones I know are extremely nice! Just seeing your phrase "you may carry now words into the future words column" really shook that up for me.

    Thank you! Now I'm ready to put my energy into the story that I truly want.

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  2. Deb Owen says

    June 8, 2009 at 1:52 pm

    Love this! (As usual. 😉 )

    I'd be interested to see what thoughts come up for people moving the 'now' into the 'future' columns.

    Using your creative example, people often almost immediately come up with thoughts like, "But I don't have time".

    But just doing something small, writing a paragraph or taking one picture or solving one problem, can take as little as 15 minutes. But that 15 minutes can start to change a whole lot of things!

    Thanks for this!
    I'm off to make my list of words now!
    All the best!
    deb

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  3. Deb Owen says

    June 8, 2009 at 1:52 pm

    Love this! (As usual. 😉 )

    I'd be interested to see what thoughts come up for people moving the 'now' into the 'future' columns.

    Using your creative example, people often almost immediately come up with thoughts like, "But I don't have time".

    But just doing something small, writing a paragraph or taking one picture or solving one problem, can take as little as 15 minutes. But that 15 minutes can start to change a whole lot of things!

    Thanks for this!
    I'm off to make my list of words now!
    All the best!
    deb

    Reply
  4. Self Help Goddess says

    June 9, 2009 at 1:13 am

    Hi Michele,

    I'm new to your blog, but I love this post!! A lot of people say "change your story," but this gives us practical how-to steps for how to make that happen. I'm definitely going to be making my lists and seeing how I can incorporate more future words into my life today.

    Thanks for a great post!

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  5. Coach T.I.A says

    June 9, 2009 at 6:23 pm

    Uh oh. I knew this but look how easy it is to fall back into the perception of the reality of now as opposed to the reality of the present and the future as we want it 🙂

    Love the writing tip – writing always works so well. Thanks!

    Tia
    @TiaSparkles

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