So this woman calls me last week. Says she’s happy — really happy — doesn’t need a coach really. Just wants to talk. Well, maybe there is just this one thing. Kinda small. Not a big deal.
See, she’s got this job she doesn’t really like but it pays pretty well — you don’t have to LOVE your work, right? You just have to get the check and support your lifestyle, even if the job is a soul-sucking, mind-numbing dead end. I mean, she does the job very well.
Oh, and, by the way, she’s got a four hour daily commute to the soul-sucking, mind-numbing dead end job she only does for the money. She doesn’t have time to connect with her husband. She feels guilty when she misses activities with her kids, so she schedules them into lots of stuff — she’s gotta work to pay for all that, right? And, for herself? No time for book club, no time for gardening, no time for nuthin’.
I have to tell you, I really liked this woman. She’s smart, she’s well-spoken, she’s caring and kind. She’s got so much going for her. And, like a lot of us, she’s completely stuck in a rut.
If you’re stuck in some kind of rut yourself, there is nothing better to do than incorporate some fun into your life.
Yes,that’s what I said: fun.
Next to money and sex, fun is one of the most difficult things for us grown-ups to talk about. It’s as if having fun is irresponsible once you crest a certain threshold of adulthood. But…
Think about when you’re having fun. You’re excited, you’re laughing, you’re in the moment — you’re happy. The Buddhists suggest “child’s mind” when tackling a new problem (or just walking through your life) — fun and play are the best ways to achieve child’s mind. Jesus taught that the Kingdom of God belongs to those who are like little children. And, how do children like to spend their time? Why, by having fun!
So, let me ask you: Are you playing every day? Are you having fun?
Take a moment to have some fun today. Clear off the coffee table and play mini-hockey with your kids. Do a cannonball off the high dive. Dance. Take your husband to the go-kart track and race. Giggle. Paint your mother’s portrait with finger paints. Hang a spoon off your nose at dinner. Buy some Play-Doh. Have a water balloon fight. Hopscotch.
Have no purpose to your fun. Forget the teaching moments. Just play. Play and relax.
You’re never too old for fun. Fun is never inappropriate. In fact, fun is catching. If folks see you have fun, they’ll have fun themselves.
If your work is not fun, try to incorporate some fun into it. If you can’t, find something more fun to do. Yes, your lifestyle may change. But that can be OK. It’s happened before. After a divorce, Karen drops the country club and joins a hiking club. After successfully beating cancer, John leaves his job and starts teaching school. When the kids leave for college, Hannah and George sell the big house and spend a year sailing the Caribbean. A woman wakes up one morning and realizes there is more to life than a four hour commute, and makes some changes.
How you live is completely up to you — if your lifestyle interferes with living your life, ditch the lifestyle for something much more real and much more fun.